Our mom, Joan Kiesendahl, passed Wednesday, September 1, 2021 late in the afternoon with all three of her sons by her side. She beat cancer once, but when it returned twelve years later, she eventually succumbed. She fought and gave us almost three years beyond what the initial prognosis was with a certain quality of life that allowed us all to cherish further special moments with her & for her to share her love with her grandchildren and those most important to her.
Our relationship with our mom defined the men we have become. She provided us with warmth and endless support throughout our lives. She never missed a game or event & was by our side for our accomplishments & also the most challenging moments in our lives. Mom was always with us and yet allowed us to each become our own person & she loved each of us for who we were. More than anyone, she knew who we were & why.
Our mom was the kindest person we knew. Her thoughtfulness and gestures for others leaves us all with an example of how to lead our lives.
Mom’s gifts were shared with each of her seven grandchildren. She would carve out special time for each of them with special days with grandma that has left a lasting memory wrapped with some life lessons that she always found a way to intertwine with all that she did. Our kids loved “Grammyland” which she created for them at her home with a playground; they learned how to fish in her pond and most recently she created her own “field of dreams” that we played many football games on Sundays with the “Smalls versus the Talls”.
There are so many personal memories of our mom that we have which have buoyed us through this grieving process. We know she was surrounded by a tremendous support team including her close friends. Ironically, mom’s battle with cancer provided mom with an awareness we are not sure she ever had about how many people loved her & appreciated all she had done for them over the years. The small gestures of a personal note or a phone call she would make daily to others with words of encouragement. This is who she was, generous and kind.
Selfishly, we miss mom while at the same time we knew her time had come, although too soon. Her spirit will thrive within each of us and those she touched. She was an amazing person & we were the most fortunate to be able to call her mom…
There will be a viewing for mom, September 9th at the First Presbyterian Church in Hawley, PA from 4:30pm – 7:30pm.
During mom’s battle she continued to focus on others by entering into clinical trials which she knew might not benefit her directly, but would help others down the road.
One of mom’s wishes in her passing was to continue the “fight” against cancer. She poured 23 years of her life into forming and leading the BK Hope Cures Foundation. As a tribute and in memory of mom, we are accepting contributions to BK Hope Cures.